Life is divine chaos. Embrace it. Forgive yourself. Breathe. Enjoy the ride.
I sometimes wish I lived on a desert island with no other people around. I wonder if life would be simpler and easier, if the only human I had to contend with was myself.
This “I want to live alone” daydream often arises when I’ve had a bad day like today struggling with other people. Like the web tech consultant who shut down our company’s website claiming she owns the domain name and won’t release it because she’s angry we opted to work with a different consultant. Or the struggle with an employee who can’t figure out why it’s unacceptable to suddenly vanish during the work day when he’s supposed to be in the office meeting with a client.
These are the kinds of things that happen during the course of a busy day which make me want to walk out the office door, find that deserted island and live alone wearing Bermuda shorts and a t-shirt all day.
People. Wild. Ego-centered. Topsy-turvy. It seems most problems during my day are directly related to conflicts with individuals.
So after another day of people-to-people combat, I asked myself, how do I live in and through the insanity? How do I live wholeheartedly in the face of these life-draining conflicts?
The answer I find is to allow myself the courage to be vulnerable; to recognize that whatever happens today, I am going to be fine. I may not like the struggles I have to face with other people today, but I will survive. I will make it.
Vulnerability is the key to living life creatively, invincibly and shamelessly. Being vulnerable requires me to have a sense of worthiness, helps me recognize we are all a mixture of good and bad. Grace and sin. Human and divine.
Accepting the courage of vulnerability doesn’t end the chaos human relationships often create. But at least by recognizing vulnerability is a part of being human, I can wrestle up the courage to go on, let the conflicts go, and accept other people and myself for who we are, where we are.
Game Plan: How do you deal with conflict? Would it help to recognize that being vulnerable is not only good, but also courageous? Can you realize that regardless of how the conflict resolves itself, you will survive? You will be fine. You always have been.