Connecting the Head and the Heart

Life can be a mystery. We experience a barrage of daily events, some good, some bad, and some in-between.


And in the midst of this daily onslaught of experiences we subconsciously try to process life’s events so we can understand who we are and where we’re going. We try to use our minds to understand and master life—to box life in, so it feels manageable. So we feel safe and in control.


This intellectual processing often alternates back and forth between two perspectives: the pessimist viewpoint which tells us people are bad, the world is out to get me, and the worst is just waiting to happen. So, I’d better be on guard and protect myself.


Or the optimist approach: people are basically good at their core. I’m going to succeed in life no matter what obstacles I face. The best is yet to come.


The internal teeter-tooter between our negative versus positive worldview is mentally exhausting at times. It becomes an unconscious way we try to process life intellectually, an empty attempt to try to control the world around us through our thinking.


But the reality is, we can’t control life or people no matter how hard we try. We can’t force positive or negative things to happen simply through our thinking. In fact, we can’t even control our thinking at times.


Instead, life like nature is dynamic, ever-changing. It unfolds. And each of us is only one part of life’s creative evolving process.


Perhaps a more authentic way of mastering life is through our heart. The heart is both the center of our physical circulatory system and the location of our spiritual center, our Soul. The Soul is the place we find our umbilical connection with God, the source of Wisdom, the Divine Intellect, the Master of Creation.


When we experience life’s daily events through our Souls, we encounter deeper wisdom much beyond mere knowledge. This ancient wisdom directs us and guides us. It helps us integrate our mind with our heart. We then see life not merely with human minds but with the mind of God, through what some call the inner eye: our mind connected to God’s.


A simple practice that can help us learn how to connect the head with the heart is being open to the good within and around us; taking a deep breath, a step back, and asking, What goodness surrounds me today?


This opening to beauty, to goodness, allows us to let go of our thinking, and see life with a new lens: the Soul’s lens which understands life as a slow and patient unfolding of God’s creative and dynamic love.


Instead of trying to unceasingly process and control life through our thoughts, we receive life’s events through our hearts, looking for the deeper wisdom. We stop the dervish whirling in our minds by naming and claiming the goodness that surrounds us, receiving life as pure gift, lifting our lives up with gratitude. Wonder. Wisdom. Divine Mystery.


Breathing in, we feel the air whispering through our lungs, noticing how it sustains our life with little effort on our part. Our blood pumps within our veins automatically. The sun shines. Birds sing. Grass grows. People care for one another in simple, ordinary ways. We begin to notice all of life is filled with a creative and sacred energy, with which we are a part.


The simplicity of being open to the goodness around us is that we don’t have to understand life. We don’t need to control it or cling to our intellectual understanding of life.


We simply notice life’s pureness. Beauty. Essence. And in doing so, we come to understand that even the negative events we encounter have a deeper wisdom to teach us, a lesson which inspires us to grow.


As we practice connecting our head and our heart we begin to understand life is more of an adventure, a metaphor, a mystery to explore, instead of a Rubik’s cube to solve. We let go of trying to control something that is uncontrollable.


Instead, we look to our Souls to lead us, trusting the Divine Mystery continues to guide us toward our highest good, our deepest Self in God. And all we have to do is listen.




 Place your hand on your heart. Breathe. Open. Notice the goodness in and around you.

 Name the good things that you become aware of as you observe.

 Notice how your perspective changes; how being aware of the goodness within and around you frees you from the dervish mind; how it moves you into a deeper place in your heart, a life giving place within your Soul.

 What does it feel like to connect your head and your heart?


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