Men are in the middle of a paradigm shift. The old definitions of what it means to be a man have fallen by the wayside. And perhaps because men abused their strength in the past, society now often tries to take men’s strength away. But strength is an integral part of what it means to be a man. Real strength comes from wisdom. It comes from learning to listen for, and responding to, the inner compass that’s inside of all men.
Finding that inner compass requires work. It requires learning to understand ourselves as men. Finding out how we are wired. What makes us tick. What throws us off the path, and how we get back on the path when the world knocks us off. It’s not a destination. It’s a life-long journey. A journey inward to discover our true self—the inner man.
In the Brotherhood of Men
For too long, men have walked the inner journey alone. We’ve become isolated, divided by competition and the need to prove that “we’re better than the next guy.” But, we’re finding out going it alone is lonely. It’s not what helps us to find balance, wholeness and peace. So, we’re at a trail head, a fork in the road. We have to decide whether we’re going to keep taking the solo path or try a new path that allows us to walk alongside each other—the hero’s path. On this path, we share our stories with each other—not only the victories we’ve achieved but also the defeats we’ve faced, endured and learned from. That’s how we grow—by sharing the stories of our lives with each other, by joining the conversation of what it means to be a man, the conversation about what helps us find wholeness—on the inside. Simply put, being a man is a team sport.
Pillars of Steel is a men’s initiative seeking to create a spark, a flame, a light on the path toward the inner compass that guides us all home. We don’t have a magic map. We don’t have it all figured out. We’re not a church. We’re just guys on the journey, digging in the ditches of life, trying to walk alongside each other and blowing the dust from each other’s eyes. We also hope to have some fun along the way.
By joining together through Inner Compass Groups, and events such as workshops on men’s topics, a breakfast series, individual spiritual mentoring and other resources for men, we hope to create a sacred space where men can encourage each other, challenge each other and walk alongside each other shoulder-to-shoulder on the path toward wholeness and balance. We think there’s strength in numbers. We’ve found affirmation and enduring friendships as we join with other men on the path toward wholeness.
Most of us believe in a higher power. Some of us choose to call that higher power God. But we also believe it’s time to allow the “Word to become fresh” because too many of our words have baggage that distract us from what we’re really hoping to find. We’re open to new words, new expressions of what faith means, so we can learn from each other.
Here’s what we hope together we’ll find:
- Sacred space to become vulnerable and honest with each other as we share the stories of our lives
- Deepening relationship with God as we understand and experience him
- Strengthening friendships with other men
- A life of love and compassion for those within our care
If you’re seeking something deeper on the inside, if you want to join the conversation about what it means to be a man, if you want to find wholeness in the company of other men, then check us out. Contact us. Look at the resources on these pages. If you feel the nudge, join us at an Inner Compass Group, participate in a workshop, or let us know if you would like to explore individual spiritual mentoring.
Trust your gut. Take the biggest step you can take.